Young love....we are beautiful, untarnished, naive, hopeful and believing that all that is wrong can be made right. We can't even see the wrong, somehow we can just look past it. Wanting and willing so hard that it is made right. The "us" is invincible. Day by day life experiences chip away at our "ideal". We learn that we are each human, we have faults, flaws, crises, doubts and failures. We learn that we doubt ourselves and each other - "was this what I expected, is this the story that I had mapped out on my mind"? And from my experience, the answer is almost always NO! Then you have to ask yourself, "is that a bad no, or a good no"? And then you have to figure out, on the fly, are you emotionally equipped to handle growing up with each other because that is basically what we do - always - grow up with each other. The things come and go, the kids grow up and start their own lives, jobs, houses, life events....it all unfolds and you wonder if you can keep what drew you together, together.
Fast forward to today and mature love... we have finally either grown to or accepted (or both) each other for who we are, (no one is perfect) even embraced how each other has grown. We have to put tantrums (our own) aside and make some grown-up decisions. And isn't that all where we want to be? Isn't that what we dreamed about when we were in the thros of young love? We have the battle scars, we have experienced some of the happiest and saddest moments of our lives and know there are more to come. When we are getting along, we can look across the room, catch each others eye and know exactly what each of us is thinking. We aren't looking for our mate to have the perfect anything, nor do we and we shouldn't expect anything from our mate that we can't give back.
True love....after years together you still call your mate your best friend and soul mate. You can look back at the ups and downs and say that somehow you could and wanted to figure it out together rather than apart. When you aren't getting along, having a small turf battle, just being your difficult selves, you still look forward to being together. You still look at each other with pride, respect, admiration, interest, love and desire, but also well aware and accepting of each others humanity and flaws. You are still joined at the hip, can complete each others sentences and recognize "the look". At the end of the day you still want to be able to look across the table at each other and know that each of you made the right choice to spend your days here on earth together. And most of all, you can't wait to find out what the next day together holds!
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