Thursday, June 24, 2010
Life Lessons
I read a great article this past Sunday written by a son (Harlan Coben) as a tribute to his father. I was in tears by the end - good tears. But the best part was this...."Unfortunately, the great insights are often the great cliches: Life goes by fast, don't waste a moment, tell the ones you love how you feel, show affection every chance you get - because I would give anything to kiss that cheek just one more time".
Wednesday, June 23, 2010
Golf Tourney continued...
oh...the best was half way through the other team couldn't remember whether they were keeping our score correctly!
Cancer Bene Golf Tourney
Well....how can I put this...it started out well...HOWEVER!!!!!!!! The men in the "A" group (and i use that "A" term loosely) started at 7:50...the point was to have everyone start at 8:00 but apparently they could not follow directions. SHOCKER!!!! We got paired with 2 women around 60ish. One was really good, one was not. Good thing because my evil, incompetent twin showed up! I was totally convinced they were lesbians (not that I care - I'm not in the market for a new girlfriend...LOL!!!) but they are just good friends. Anyway..I digress...Hole #1 (which was the par 5 dog leg) opponent 1 (OP1) makes a really bad shot, OP2 makes a great shot. I do my usual first hole, can't calm down shit but still decent. Me, having never played in a tourney, picks up OP1 ball because it was not good...just to be nice. BIG MISTAKE!!!!! But what do I know. Other than hitting like CRAP!!!! my next mistake was putting out of turn...because my head is in my game, not best ball. Self centered says "what"?
To put it in perspective, I could be sitting on a non-productive conference call, waiting in an airport hoping to make my Friday night flight home, or building project plans that will not be properly executed.
So...was it my best day, no...but not my worst.
To put it in perspective, I could be sitting on a non-productive conference call, waiting in an airport hoping to make my Friday night flight home, or building project plans that will not be properly executed.
So...was it my best day, no...but not my worst.
Thursday, June 10, 2010
Santa Barbara
We spent the day in Santa Barbara yesterday. It was beautiful! Dave runs a sales contest every spring for a day trip for the sales people. The good thing is that we meet the bus, say hello and then everyone is off on their own for the day.
Days like yesterday make me wish that Dave was semi-retired. I'm not sure I'm ready for "full retirement" I've worked hard to carve out some interests of my own and I'm not quite ready to have to re-adjust my schedule.....I know...we can't always have it the way we want it all of the time! I certainly don't want to give up going to the gym or golf - neither of which he has any interest in. I think the ultimate transition may be a negotiation....Dave has no hobbies or friends. I certainly understand because when you work the hours he does you're too exhausted - physically and mentally - for much else on the weekends. I've already mentioned that as much as it will be great to have more time together, we will still need to retain our individuality.....he just looked at me like "what?". I guess the changes and challenges make it interesting! The beat goes on!
Sorry no pics yesterday...I was enjoying myself too much to take the camera out!
Days like yesterday make me wish that Dave was semi-retired. I'm not sure I'm ready for "full retirement" I've worked hard to carve out some interests of my own and I'm not quite ready to have to re-adjust my schedule.....I know...we can't always have it the way we want it all of the time! I certainly don't want to give up going to the gym or golf - neither of which he has any interest in. I think the ultimate transition may be a negotiation....Dave has no hobbies or friends. I certainly understand because when you work the hours he does you're too exhausted - physically and mentally - for much else on the weekends. I've already mentioned that as much as it will be great to have more time together, we will still need to retain our individuality.....he just looked at me like "what?". I guess the changes and challenges make it interesting! The beat goes on!
Sorry no pics yesterday...I was enjoying myself too much to take the camera out!
Sunday, June 6, 2010
I was looking at old pictures the other day..."back in the day" when I was in my mid twenties. Now I look at those pics and think, "I was pretty hot"! The sad thing is, I thought I was fat. Thanks to our cultural obsession with weight and being stick thin! I hated wearing a bathing suit in public, never looked in a mirror and when I did, focused on flaws instead of assets. At 108-110 lbs then, with barely any body fat and rock hard abs, I had nothing to be disappointed about! Well, this summer, the bikini is coming out! Because at 125 lbs I'm still pretty happy with me and I don't want to waste a minute. When I'm 80, I don't want to look at pictures of me today and wonder why I was so hard on myself and didn't appreciate the time for what it was.
Wednesday, June 2, 2010
Seasons of Friendship
I've been thinking a lot lately about a poem regarding people coming into your life for a reason, season, forever, or in and out throughout time.
I have a very long term friendship that seems to be sadly fading into the past. I'm really not sure why. True, our lives are very different now - different goals, experiences, interests. But to me that enhances the friendship. The longevity and loyalty builds an ability to accept, support and understand. I don't believe that relationships are always 50/50. Sometimes one has to work harder or be the stronger support. I think this applies to any relationship. I've worked very hard on this relationship. I don't mind that, but I've reached a point where it's enough for now. So now I am evaluating what this relationship is adding to my life. Sometimes my husband will be in the room while I'm talking to this person and afterwards he'll comment on how on-sided the conversation was - my part was "uh huh, uh huh, oh really". He's not being mean, he just cares about me. And maybe stepping back will allow me the space to make new friends or become a better friend to others.
I also know that no matter how busy we are we make time for what or who is important to us.
So for now, I've decided to take a break and just see where it goes.
I have a very long term friendship that seems to be sadly fading into the past. I'm really not sure why. True, our lives are very different now - different goals, experiences, interests. But to me that enhances the friendship. The longevity and loyalty builds an ability to accept, support and understand. I don't believe that relationships are always 50/50. Sometimes one has to work harder or be the stronger support. I think this applies to any relationship. I've worked very hard on this relationship. I don't mind that, but I've reached a point where it's enough for now. So now I am evaluating what this relationship is adding to my life. Sometimes my husband will be in the room while I'm talking to this person and afterwards he'll comment on how on-sided the conversation was - my part was "uh huh, uh huh, oh really". He's not being mean, he just cares about me. And maybe stepping back will allow me the space to make new friends or become a better friend to others.
I also know that no matter how busy we are we make time for what or who is important to us.
So for now, I've decided to take a break and just see where it goes.
Tuesday, June 1, 2010
Changing Paths
Life throws us many turns and twists along the way, sometimes a whole new direction. Part of our responsibility is to "figure it out", take on the new challenges and keep going...until the next twist or turn.
Five years ago my path completely changed. My first husband had died unexpectedly, a career that I had loved and, in hindsight, devoted way too many hours to was no longer meaningful to me, the future that I had spent 20 years envisioning was no more and a home that we had lovingly built together became a cold, sad structure. I was lost in the woods and had no idea which way to go next.
Then I met a wonderful man. Suddenly I had a new path. As uncertain as it felt, I knew instinctively that it was the right path. Dave and I got married and he has been the most wonderful, caring husband. I have been truly blessed. Most of the new path has been wonderful. I have time to cook, learn to play better golf, teach myself Photoshop - many things that I never had time for when I was traveling for work and putting in 60-80 hours a week. I did have to move to LA. That move has been one of the hardest - maybe it's just because I'm getting older. And I'm a type A goal oriented person. Getting my whites "whiter" just doesn't cut it in the new goal department. My new path is challenging, exciting, frustrating at times, I'm still looking for my next passion, but I am happy to be on this path with Dave. Change can be scary, hard, exciting, adventurous - and many other things. But I did it. I'm sure there will be many more down the road and I know I can do it.
Five years ago my path completely changed. My first husband had died unexpectedly, a career that I had loved and, in hindsight, devoted way too many hours to was no longer meaningful to me, the future that I had spent 20 years envisioning was no more and a home that we had lovingly built together became a cold, sad structure. I was lost in the woods and had no idea which way to go next.
Then I met a wonderful man. Suddenly I had a new path. As uncertain as it felt, I knew instinctively that it was the right path. Dave and I got married and he has been the most wonderful, caring husband. I have been truly blessed. Most of the new path has been wonderful. I have time to cook, learn to play better golf, teach myself Photoshop - many things that I never had time for when I was traveling for work and putting in 60-80 hours a week. I did have to move to LA. That move has been one of the hardest - maybe it's just because I'm getting older. And I'm a type A goal oriented person. Getting my whites "whiter" just doesn't cut it in the new goal department. My new path is challenging, exciting, frustrating at times, I'm still looking for my next passion, but I am happy to be on this path with Dave. Change can be scary, hard, exciting, adventurous - and many other things. But I did it. I'm sure there will be many more down the road and I know I can do it.
Why a Blog?
I've been thinking about writing a blog for a couple of years...but always put it off. Lately a couple of friends have started blogs for various reasons and I'm finding them to be useful, entertaining, sort of fun, a great archive of your life and..cheap therapy! So - here goes, be patient as I learn this new way to communicate. I hope you stop by often and share your experiences and perspectives.
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