Peace, Love and Understanding

A few months ago I was cleaning out a dresser drawer and found my first husband's marathon medals.  It made me realize that one day, hopefully in the distant future, someone will be cleaning out my things and probably tossing stuff that was very meaningful to me but clearly not to whomever has the task.

Three of Bob's 4 children participate in running and triathlon events.  It seemed only fitting that I should send the medals on to them.  So after some thought, I decided which ones should go to each.  I explained that even though these items were very precious me and brought back a lot of memories of the various races and all of the training leading up to the races, it was time to pass the medals on to them and their families.  Each of them have races coming up and have promised to wear them in his honor.

As often happens when a death occurs, feelings of anger, blame, guilt, resentment, etc. can surface and drive a wedge between people.  Sometimes that wedge can last a lifetime and damage other relationships.  It does seem that this gesture of sharing something of their father's has brought about a bit of reconciliation.  I do hope so.  As Robbie said, "All dad would have wanted was for us to love and respect each other, and drink together - LOL!".  I not only believe that is true, I know it is true.